Is it really difficult to be yourself? Watch this personality development video at Skillopedia by Niharika to boost your self-confidence and learn to be the crazy person you are meant to be.
Complete video transcript:
Hey, friends, you are with me, Niharika and welcome to Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world. Now there are people who end up asking how do I be a little more confident? Well, be yourself. How should I be at my workplace? Be yourself. Now be yourself is quite possibly, the most commonly phrase used as an advice. Be yourself, such a vague one, right? How does it really mean to be yourself? And is it really as easy as it sounds? Well yes it is. In this session today, I’m going to help you with some tips in order to be yourself. So what are they? Well let’s have a look.
Find time to discover yourself
Well the first thing that you need to do, is discover yourself. Now you can’t be yourself if you don’t know or you don’t understand and accept yourself. It should be your primary goal to find this out. So it’s time to discover yourself. Find the time to learn upon what you value and take the time to consider what makes up the essence of who you are. As a part of this, your life and choices are the most important thing that you need to understand. Try to think about what kind of things you would or would like to do and act accordingly. And how to do you find that out? Well yes you can start taking personality tests. Go online or even in the newspapers, well there are so many different types of personality tests, such as how lovable you are or how positive you are or something like how challenging you are. Well this will help you to discover yourself or help you to understand yourself in a better manner.
Be Kind to yourself
So what’s the next thing that you need to do? Well be kind to yourself. Never stop looking for your own strengths. Over time these may change and thus you may change the definition of being yourself. But you cannot stop focussing on them. Your strengths help you to balance out your flaws. Another right reason for not comparing yourself to others because comparison leads to negativity. A person filled with negativity cannot focus on the mantra of be yourself because they are too busy anchoring up after someone else. Comparison also leads to criticism of others because of which you lose friends and respect. And it’s also a way of never being yourself. So it’s time for you to be kind to yourself and of course it’s time for you to appreciate yourself. So what are you waiting for? Start being nice, start focusing on your strengths and start appreciating yourself.
Stand out – Follow your own style
So let’s have a look at the third step that you need to follow. Well you need to follow your own style. The common thing a lot of people do is, copy other’s actions because it seem like the better route to fit in. but really? Shouldn’t you just stand out? Standing out is very hard, yes. But you need to try, avoid assuming other people’s perspectives of you. Even if it’s not something you would normally do, that’s what being yourself is all about. Whatever you are, accept it. Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts people to you. Don’t let people change you. Allow yourself the space to grow and of course to improve and become a wisher and that will help you to turn out to be positive and of course you will stop comparing and liking yourself. So stop copying others.
Learn to laugh at yourself – Relax & stop worrying
So what’s the next thing that you need to do? Well you need to relax. Stop worrying about it. The worse thing that could happen, well especially in social situations, well you need to stop worrying. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Or accidentally head your date when leaning for a kiss? Well, try to learn and laugh at yourself because what happens later, well it just turns out to be a funny story that you can share with your friends. So let them know that you’re not perfect and that makes you feel a little more confident. It’s quite an attractive quality I must say because when you make people laugh, trust me they start loving you and this is when I always say that, these are the things that help you to be yourself. So stop worrying and start relaxing.
Fail faster to find success
So friends, here is the next thing that takes you to be yourself. Well you need to accept failures. We all mistakes but the trick is, to learn from your mistakes, to achieve success. So fail faster to find success. It may take time for you to give your best or to achieve the best. But as long as you stick with your failures and start appreciating them, or learn from your suffering, you will find that the core of you is still very strong and this is how it will help you to bring out yourself and be yourself.
Travel & Explore
Now this one is totally my favourite one. Well it is to travel. Yes you heard it right. Travel. Well travelling helps you to see how other people in the world live and it can help you to appreciate what you have and what sets you apart. Plus on any trip, you will come across challenges such as communicating or getting directions from different people. Travelling alone can force you to learn things about yourself that you never knew existed. so friends, before you just try or take any advice on any other things on how to be yourself, well go ahead and plan a trip, book your tickets and start travelling.
So this brings me to the end of this session today. Hope these steps that we discussed, will definitely help you on knowing and understanding on how to be yourself. I’ll be back with a new session soon, so till then you keep watching us on Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world and of course do not forget to press the bell icon. Well that will help you to get notifications on the new sessions that we upload on Skillopedia. So keep watching and have a good day.