Stop being used & abused | How to stop people to take ADVANTAGE & take you for GRANTED – Personality Development Video
It happens that people take advantage of you and take you for granted for being too nice to them. That upsets you and you don’t know how to deal with it. You get used and abused for being nice to people. Well, you need to put a stop to it. In this personality development video with Ceema you will learn signs that indicate you are taken advantage of. Learn how to deal with such mean and rude people. Stop people to use and abuse you all the time. Watch this motivational video and share it with your friends and folks.
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Complete Video Transcript :-
Hello everyone, I hope you’re all doing just great Now the reason I made this video is because I was reading your comments and a lot of people tell me that you know..they’re being really good to people, they’re helping everyone, they’re being really nice..However..People don’t appreciate you, people don’t respect you and you always end up being taken advantage of even though you are so good to people, even though you are so nice, Now let me tell you there is nothing wrong with being nice. However, I have learned two things-there are two categories of people, the first category of people are those who are nice but because of being nice they are respected and appreciated. The second category of people, well..they are nice but they tend to be used and used and abused. Are you one of those people? Or are you those people who belong to the first category Well for many years I was not so appreciated I was not so valued My problem was That I was being tooo nice Do you have a similar problem? Well, if you do, I’m going to teach you how to get your life back To show you what being nice really means so stay tuned for yet another very interesting lesson to know if you really are a nice person or maybe you are making the mistake of being too nice So I have made a checklist of certain things that you need to be aware of to make sure that you are not a very nice person but you belong to the first category of people, those people who are respected and valued.
Alright, remember one thing, if you don’t respect yourself, no one will ever respect you. Now you’re probably thinking why would someone not respect themselves? We all love ourselves, right? what if I say some of you are not even aware of your behavior? You are not aware of your behavior that shows that you don’t respect yourself. For example: lets say tomorrow you have to attend an interview and because you have to attend the interview you need to get some shopping done. You have to wear new clothes after all , right? But this friend of yours calls you and tells you that “why don’t you come home and hang out with me?” Now because you’re too nice you cannot end up saying no to your friend even though you have something important to do for yourself Let me tell you, you have the right to say NO without feeling bad or guilty You have to take care of yourself first If you don’t take care of yourself how can you take care of other people? If you don’t set boundaries for yourself you are someone who does not respect you own self. So you need to set boundaries. That will make people respect you. So always respect yourself in order to get respect from everyone else
Now I believe that if you want to change, you’ve got to change yourself right here first…Yes..Now people who are too nice have a wrong mindset they have wrong thinking They are the victims of what I call as negative thinking So here’s some negative thinking that you might indulge in if you are someone who wants to be too nice..Okay thought number 1 that you might end up thinking is ..”I’m being selfish if I’m not helping people every time” Wrong thought Thought number 2 You may think to yourself “I feel guilty that I didn’t do enough” Thought number 3 “They won’t like me if I say NO” Thought number 4 “You may think something bad may happen to me if i don’t help people” Well if you happen to have these wrong thoughts, STOP!! Remember, you’re NOT chocolate, you can’t make everyone happy all the time! So when you have these negative thoughts that I just talked about.. what are you going to do? Yes, you are going to talk right back to these thoughts! Tell yourself-I need to take care of myself first because only then I can help other people and tell yourself that I need to say a NO if I am uncomfortable, Change your mindset , do not have negative thoughts take over!
Did you notice that sometimes people just expect you to do things for them? After all, you’ve been doing so much for so many people for such a long time ..that they feel that they can just call you and tell you to take their car for a wash, run a certain errand for them..meet them at someplace out of the blue, I mean don’t you have a life? I mean have these people even considered that you have your own plans for the day, your own agenda? Well, if you have people like that in your life, I think you need to know that you are being taken for granted. If you practice self respect like we just talked about, people’s behavior toward you will change. They will really be careful, they will become very mindful of asking favors because they know that a self respecting person can never ever be taken for granted So watch out for people’s behavior! Make sure no one can take you for a ride.
Now I know that learning to say NO that’s easier said than done Honestly, I still have a problem with saying a firm Now saying NO makes you take control of your life To say a simple NO there are three things you must remember, Number 1 Be honest about what you are saying NO to. So if you cannot come to a party be honest about why you cannot do it Just be honest about it, don’t worry Number 2 Don’t over explain when you..when you feel guilty or awkward, you tend to over explain You tell people how you tried to do your best how you’ll do something better next time blah blah blah..You don’t have to do that .A simple explanation is enough. Don’t over do it! Do not over explain Okay? Now the third aspect of saying no is saying it kindly and in a friendly way because we want to be nice but we don’t want to be too nice okay? So Be kind and be friendly when you say a firm NO.
Now please do not burden yourself with the feelings of others. Of course, some one or some people may feel bad or a little put off when you’ve said a NO to them But if you have practiced saying NO using the three tips I’ve just talked to you about , you’ve done the right thing You need to be proud of yourself for doing the right thing So don’t link anyone else’s feelings with your feelings. If you’ve turned down a friend who wants you to help them at 2oclock in the night in the middle of the night? well, you don’t have to do that if you are down with fever because you can tell them that you’re unwell. Dont feel bad if they feel bad okay? Dont feel bad if they are hurt that you cannot bail them out in the middle of a problem, If they feel bad, well, let them feel bad. Its not your problem!
Now there are people who help you, encourage you and there are some who just drain you out of everything-your time, your money, your energy your efforts, even your emotions! As we discussed, if you learn to respect yourself, and watch your negative thoughts and if you make sure that you take responsibility for your own feelings and not other people’s feelings, you will start to loose relationships! And some friendships. But I’ll tell you what? Let them go! Let them leave! You don’t need such people in your life anyway! Therefore, if you are going to stop being too nice, well the sad thing is that you will have to cut unnecessary relationships. And that -let me tell you, is the best thing that could ever ever happen to you ..EVER!
Well! Thank you for watching! I’d really like to hear back from all of you! So please tell me what you have learned and how these tips, these really important tips, how have they helped you become a better person Because I am confident it will! I will be back with some more lessons! But before I go, please don’t forget to like the video, subscribe to our channel and do not forget to press or click on the bell icon to get regular updates of videos just as interesting as this one! I’ll see you with some more lessons, until then this is me saying Take care and have a great day